the myth of balance

I’ve found myself thinking about balance a lot lately.  What it is, how to achieve it, and why I should want to achieve it.  Among women, and mothers in particular, balance is a sort of holy grail.  Just read any interview of any successful woman, basically ever, and you’ll see the following question, “How do you do it all? How do you achieve (dun dun dun…) balance?” Normally, the answer will be some kind of vague murmuring about making the time for things that are important to you and letting go of the rest (as if laundry can be let go forever), or maybe something about self-care (which usually means going to get a pedicure once a month or something). But there’s a big problem, for me, when it comes to balance. Namely, that’s it unachievable.

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enjoy every moment.

If you’re a woman with a few kids in a certain age range, you know that you can’t go anywhere in public (but specifically grocery stores, Target, or a library), without someone coming up to you and saying, “Enjoy every moment. It goes by too fast.” Depending on your mood, you may or may not want to throw some choice words their way, hand them your neediest child, and book it to the nearest Starbucks.  Personally, I always try to be gracious to people who say this, because I know it’s true- these years with my children are precious, and I know that’s what they’re getting at. Continue reading

small. quiet. simple.

I’ve been pretty quiet here lately, I know.  It’s not really that life’s been actually quiet, or even that my mind’s been quiet.  Rather, the opposite.

Everything has felt so big in the world lately.  Even as I’ve tried to turn off the noise of the news and social media, it’s proven impossible.  The injustice and sadness and unfairness of the world has seemed so overwhelming and incomprehensible in their scope.  And of course I have opinions on some of these things. But they’re complicated, and my opinions don’t seem to come close to touching the the immensity of our problems. Nothing I say or write will temper it, and in most cases, I think it would only add to the cacophony. Continue reading

Saturday mornings (David Eyre’s Pancake)

dsc_0187Saturday mornings are sort of a toss-up around here.  Some days, mommy (that’s me) wakes up well-rested (rarely) or at least less zombie-ish than usual (more likely), gets to drink her coffee in peace as the kids play and watch too much Daniel Tiger.  Once we’re all sufficiently woken up and hungry, my pleasant, homemaking alter ego says, “Shall we make pancakes? Or waffles? Let’s make bacon, too!” And then she lets the kids HELP and everyone eats heaps of delicious breakfast food and says please and thank you and we are ready to start our day.

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the end of buy nothing november

img_7247 And just like that, November is drawing to a close.  When I decided that I wouldn’t buy anything for the entire month of November, I admit it was mostly just a reaction to the plethora of stuff in my house, and the overwhelming commercialism of the upcoming holiday season.  I wasn’t sure how it would go, or how I would feel about it when it was all said and done. Some of the results of a month-long kibosh on spending were as you’d expect, while others really surprised me.  In a nutshell, here are my takeaways from Buy Nothing November: Continue reading

everything but the turkey

rp_dsc_0057.jpgThanksgiving’s tomorrow and you still don’t have the perfect recipe for green bean casserole?  How about pie?  Well, lucky for you your favorite mom blogger (just kidding, it’s me) used to be a food blogger and spent a WHOLE lotta time finding the best of the best recipes for Thanksgiving.  These are some of my absolute favorite, crowd-pleasing recipes.  You know, just in case you’re not totally prepared yet. Continue reading